Anti-pain medication doula

I AM NOT ANTI-PAIN MEDICATION.
That's how this short and sweet blog starts.

I am an outspoken, advocate for evidence based birth. Sometimes that means, I speak outright, about the abuses in the medical system, the downsides to interventions and medication, and the misguiding information on pregnancy, labor, and birth.
I AM NOT ANTI-PAIN MEDICATION.

I can see through the eyes of the women who know me by name, that I may appear too "anti-allopathic" or "anti-institution" - that I may hinder their birth experience with my rants, forced beliefs, or smother them with too much information.

I can feel in the words they carefully choose, as if they are afraid I'll shake my head in disgust, or shame them in my conversations with other doulas.

This is so far, my beloved friends, so insanely far from the truth, it pains me to have to acknowledge it.

I am NOT the outspoken advocate, the ranting hippy, the overly crunchy mama, when I'm in your space.
Your pregnancy is not about attaining a goal of natural birth, or NOT having any interventions.
Its about your BABY. It's about bringing a new soul into your family. Growing a new person.

WE DONT GET PREGNANT TO HAVE A NATURAL BIRTH. WE GET PREGNANT TO HAVE A BABY.

When I am called upon to SERVE, the opinions are left at the door. Any thought I've had about how birth SHOULD be, has been cleared from my thoughts, and my only focus is on what you want, and need, to have a fulfilling experience. The outcome of your birth matters to me, but not in any way that was guided by my own thoughts or bias.

I am there for you.

Please remember this when you speak to me about your birth, or your pregnancy, and tell me your story.
Please dont think I'll curse your decisions behind your back,
or make cold, hurtful "well you shoulda.." comments..
I wont.
I love pregnancy, and birth, and babies, and mothers..

And the outspoken, sharp tongued birth advocate, is NOT who will be present in your space.

PROMISE